As a sex coach, how to make a woman squirt, or can you make a woman squirt, are probably the questions I hear most often. The answer is yes, and the steps are below.

Before we begin though, I want to add this caveat. This technique works, and works well. It also gets easier to orgasm each time you do it – so practice. Practice, practice, practice; because practice makes perfect.

How to make a woman squirt:

1. Sit on the very edge of your bed or a chair with your legs open. Alternately squat down next to your bed with your legs open – if you wear heels and use one arm to lean on the bed it will be easier to maintain your balance.

This position is important because it pushes everything down and forward, making it easier to reach. Also, if you’re lying on your back, you often won’t know that you squirt because the fluid falls back inside you.

2. Take some sweet almond oil and slather it generously onto the hand you’re using. Try using your non-dominant hand, as the lighter stimulation can actually improve the experience.

Sweet almond oil is a fantastic lubricant to use, and it’s cheap and easy to obtain at any health store or pharmacy.

3. Taking your middle and ring finger, place them inside the vagina, following the natural upwards curve of the body.

4. Before your fingertips reach as far back as they can go, you’ll feel a ridged area that has a different texture to the rest of the vaginal cavity. Those hard little lines are the g-spot, that’s what you want to stimulate.

5. Now notice that your thumb naturally falls in the area of the clitoris. While you are busy with g-spot stimulation, use your thumb on the clitoris. Try varying speeds, from just holding firmly, to light circular movements with medium pressure.

The clit is very sensitive, and contrary to popular belief, not all women like clitoral stimulation. In fact many hate it altogether, so another option is to stimulate around the clitoris, without directly touching it.

6. The stimulation of the g-spot is not a thrusting movement – that does nothing. Keep your fingers inside, and only stimulate the g-spot directly with a flicking movement of your fingertips. The intensity and speed will vary from woman to woman.

7. In most women it’s going to a be combination of g-spot and clitoral stimulation that will bring them to orgasm, and it’s very common for a woman to want to stop you because she feels like she needs to pee.

Kind of like going to the loo is impossible when you’re hard, if she tries she’ll find out she can’t pee either J When that feeling happens, just push through – it will pass.

8. Once your lady starts orgasming – don’t stop the stimulation! You may need to stop direct clitoral stimulation for a moment or two sometimes, but for the most part this orgasm technique tends not to cause clitoral over sensitivity.

Most women don’t know that they can have multiple orgasms because stimulation stops after the first orgasm.

Keep going through the orgasm and maybe slow down slightly after she’s cum to build up intensity again.

It is worth trying to maintain the vigorous pace after her first orgasm and all the way through though, as this can unlock a series of orgasms that are tightly packed together – a multiple orgasm.

This technique does work really well, and if you can relax and give yourself permission to enjoy it, it may lead to some of the most mind-blowing sex you and your partner can share.

One caveat though, squirting produces a lot of fluid, and if you aren’t prepared for that, well then it will take you by surprise. The fluid can gush or shoot out, and can be mistaken for urinating. It also makes guys uncomfortable with oral sex if they’re not used to it.

Last thing – keep a bottle of water near. A big one. You will need to be rehydrated!

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Nombuyiselo Nombewu was five years old when she last saw her mother, Mathapelo Shai. Her younger twin sisters also last saw their mother 10 years ago, shortly after their father’s death.

“They have been longing to meet her for a very long time now,” said Nombuyiselo’s grandmother, Susan Nombewu.

Nombuyiselo’s yearning to meet her mother would go unrealised.

On Mother’s Day, Nombuyiselo’s charred remains were discovered by a dog rummaging through a dump site in Jouberton Extension 7 in Klerksdorp.

That Friday Gogo Susan had sent the teenager to a neighbour, about 300m away, to borrow R50 to buy electricity in the extremely cold and drizzly afternoon.

She never returned. 

Gogo Susan was horrified when she saw the remains of her granddaughter.

She said the 15-year-old was her Florence Nightingale – her guardian angel. “I still needed her very much in my life,” Gogo Susan says helplessly, hunched in a tattered chair and surrounded by mourners.

They have been streaming into the custard-coloured living room, covered with pictures of the Nombewu clan, many of them children and grandchildren. The grandmother sits surrounded by framed Bible scriptures and miniature effigies.

“I’m on medication for my high blood pressure, my diabetes, heart disease and spinal infection,” Gogo Susan says.

Her granddaughter was always the one to remind her to take her medication. “I just forget sometimes,” she murmurs. “Who will be there to remind me now?” She dabs her eyes with a damp handkerchief.

On that fateful night, when hours went by without a sign of Nombuyiselo, Gogo Susan grew concerned. She asked the twin sisters to look for her. They came back without their sister.

At about 8pm, as the cold set in, the matriarch asked her older grandson, Zamuxolo, to look for her missing grandchild.

As the night wore on and the cold bit deeper, the frail woman joined the search. Nothing.

“I became extremely weak and worried. She was always at home at that time of the evening,” Gogo Susan says.

While she was on the street corner at about 9pm, still looking out for her granddaughter, the suspect, who was later arrested, walked past and made conversation with her.

“While I was standing there, two people walked past. I couldn’t recognise the other person but I saw [name withheld] because I know him well.

“As they approached, he said to me: ‘What are you doing here so late in the evening?’ I told him I was looking for Nombuyiselo. I don’t know where she is.”

The man merely uttered “Huh,” and walked on. He would appear in the dock days later.

“I came back home and I called my daughters to alert them of Nombuyiselo’s disappearance.”

The search party commenced again the following day at 5am but there was still no sign of the Matlosana Secondary School grade 8 pupil.

“We couldn’t find her and at about 5pm we went to the police station to report her missing,” she said.

Early on Sunday morning, the family received a call from local police. Details were scant. The authorities were on their way to fetch the family.

As Gogo Susan was getting ready, her neighbour from down the road told her there was talk of a burnt body that had been found 236 steps away from her home.

The grandmother, who had acted as a mother to Nombuyiselo for most of her life, knew what this meant.

As she drew closer, people tried to stop her. She could not be stopped. It was her child.

“When I got there, it was her indeed,” she said.

The straight back hairstyle, the earrings, the remains of the umbrella she had been carrying. It was Nombuyiselo.

“They burnt my granddaughter like a dog,” she cried.

“I heard it was [name withheld] and had questions. He saw me standing and looking for Nombuyiselo yet he knew where she was. Why would he do such a painful thing to me? He grew up in front of me; he grew up with my children.”

She said Nombuyiselo died sad because she had not yet met her mother. “But now it will never happen,” she said, her sobbing drowning her speech.

“They just wanted to see her face, they wanted to hear her voice for a day, then let her be.”

Nombuyiselo’s body was discovered by a resident dumping garbage. He was alerted by his dog’s “strange actions”. The man, who asked for his identity not to be revealed, spoke to the Mail & Guardian this week, at the scene of the crime, a short distance from Nombuyiselo’s home.

A middle-aged man, who also requested anonymity, recounted that he heard “something drag past my yard” at about 3am.

“I was having a smoke because I was struggling to sleep. I heard the sounds and peeped through my window and noticed four figures pulling something, which I couldn’t make out. I decided to follow them at a distance and noticed them walk into the dump site.

“At that point I turned back because I didn’t want to put my life in danger. I didn’t know what was happening until the body was found in the morning.”

Nombuyiselo’s mother made it back to her family this week – to see her daughter’s alleged murderer in court.

Shai arrived at the Nombewu home two days after she was told the grim story about her daughter.

She wept uncontrollably when Nombuyiselo’s alleged killer emerged from the Klerksdorp Magistrate Court’s holding cells and was escorted to the dock of Courtroom A by an orderly.

She urged the harshest punishment for those responsible for Nombuyiselo’s death.

Shai lives in a shack in Eikenhof settlement in Johannesburg South.

“I wanted to visit them or they visit me but I didn’t have money because I’m unemployed,” she said. She also cites family conflicts as another reason for the lack of contact. “But their older sister [Nosipho Nombewu, 21] visited them at least twice a year.”

Nozipho, who lives in central Johannesburg, found their mother about two years ago.

The ultimate betrayal

Half of all murders of women are carried out by their partners and South Africa has the highest rate of those, according to a 2015 policy brief by the Alan J Flisher Centre for Public Mental Health.

This is not new. In 2004, the South African Medical Research Council said that every six hours a woman is killed by her partner. Its 2012 follow-up study reflected a decrease, in line with the general decrease in murder rates.

But a woman still dies every eight hours at the hands of her partner, who can be a (former) husband or (former) boyfriend.

A Statistics South Africa health survey published last week revealed that 21% of women over 18 in South Africa have experienced violence at the hands of their partner.

These studies confirm that black African women from rural areas, and in lower-income families, are at the greatest risk of intimate partner violence. The most dangerous moment for a woman trapped in a violent relationship is when she leaves the partner. – Ruth Hopkins

Source: http://www.mg.co.za 

A Zimbabwean pastor spoke to God over the phone during a church service.

The pastor was filmed talking to God over his cellphone while the churchgoers cheered in the background.

He  called a woman from the crowd to come and receive a message from God.

As soon as the woman knelt down before him, the pastor started receiving instructions from God over the phone, which he told to the woman.

Source: http://www.dailysun.co.za 

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Picture: Former Mahikeng Local Municipal mayor, Gaasite Legalatladi

A CONSPIRACY case to commit murder against former Mahikeng Local Municipal mayor, Gaasite Legalatladi was postponed by Lehurutshe Magistrate’s Court in Lehurutshe until June 6-7. Legalatladi allegedly plot to kill Bokone Bophirima Premier, Supra Mahumapelo back in 2014.

She was allegedly not happy about Mahumapelo’s decision after he denied her to become Ngaka Modiri Molema District Municipal mayor. It is alleged that Mahumapelo also bought a farm that belonged to Legalatladi’s family.

Legalatladi allegedly approached a traditional healer for muthi. She appeared before the packed court on Monday.

The traditional healer allegedly informed the law enforcement about Legalatladi’s intentions and CCTV cameras were installed to capture the moment. The court saw the evidence contained in a video of the murder plot, with two senior government officials taking the stand as witnesses.

According to both witnesses, a traditional healer, who was also the secretary of the ANC branch, attended the rally and called them under a tree and confirmed Legalatladi’s intention to kill Mahumapelo.

They also alleged the traditional healer, Thanako Tshukudu, had told them Legalatladi wanted to kill Mahumapelo and Mahikeng Mayor Gosiame Seatlholo because the ANC provincial chairperson had taken their land and refused to allow her to become mayor.

Tshukudu would have apparently taken Mahumapelo’s footprints and mixed it with “muthi”.

Mahumapelo said Legalatladi didn’t plan the murder alone, and she should not allow herself to bear the brunt alone.

“It would be important for her to declare who else is a co-conspirator in this particular action so that we can bring serious remedial action against all those involved because it’s clear they are members of the ANC. But secondly, it’s wrong to plan the death of your leadership only because of your personal interest,” she said.

Legalatladi’s R3 000 bail was extended until her next appearance.- Newsnote

(Additional reporting by Citizen Newspaper.)

​The NWU’s student discipline and compliance department hosted Emma Sadleir, renowned social media law specialist, as part of the university’s human rights awareness campaign on its campus in Potchefstroom on 16 May.

Emma was the keynote speaker on the legal, disciplinary and reputational risk of social media. Another speaker, Prof Fika Janse van Rensburg, acting campus rector, highlighted the importance of freedom of speech and social media on the campus. The event was attended by members of the NWU and campus management, staff, student leaders, students and the media.

‘We are all celebrities’

“If you won’t put something on a billboard along a busy road for everyone to see, you should definitely not put it on social media,” Emma said. “I want you to know that every photo that is taken of you from now until you die will be published. If you don’t want your employer, your spouse or grandmother to see it don’t let it exist in digital format. If you put something on the internet it stays there forever; the internet never forgets.”

Emma cautioned about the loss of privacy on social media. “There is no such thing as a free meal. Although we do not pay to use many of the social media sites and platforms, we do pay for it with the information we provide which is often used for advertising purposes.” She says this information can be hacked or land in the wrong hands.

“We have all become celebrities thanks to social media.” This is why it has become even more important to look after your reputation, she said. “Your online ‘CV’, in other words what you post and write on social media platforms, says more about you than what your normal CV does.”

She said many potential employers will Google an applicant’s social media platforms before offering them a job.

‘If you are in the chain you are accountable’

“Reputational harm is more important than the disciplinary and legal harm,” Emma said, singling out the Penny Sparrow case. Although Penny, who was found guilty of hate speech and crimen injuria, has apologised and paid a fine, the damage that was done will remain with her.

Emma also warned about defamation and its legal consequences. “The law says as soon as content has been seen by just one other person it is considered published. In other words it is the same as publishing something on the front page of a newspaper. There is a lot of ignorance in this regard because people believe they have an absolute right to freedom of speech. The right of freedom of expression can however be limited if it is in conflict with any other rights such as the rights to dignity, privacy and reputation.”

In South Africa the law says that any person in the chain of publication is legally responsible for it. The implication of this is that anyone who has the ability to stop the publication of content or dissociate him or herself from it, is also responsible for the publication of it and can thus be legally sued for its contents.  This also applies to social media users who retweet, repost and like or associate themselves with posts and content on the various platforms.

‘Use technology to make everyone feel at home’

Prof Fika, referring to social media, said technology should be used in such a way that it contributes to making people feel welcome at the NWU.

“We are proud of our place and the only way in which we can ensure that this sense of pride remains is if we really listen to each other and if we really speak from the heart.” He stressed the importance of students and staff not being inhibited to say how they feel but also warned against the danger of speaking one’s mind in a destructive way that breaks down communication and hurts people’s feelings.

Emma Sadleir, social media specialist, talking about digital content, says sexting, which has become popular, is very dangerous. “Phones can be stolen and even if you trust someone it is still risky. I see many cases of revenge porn on a daily basis and it causes victims irreversible damage.”

Source: http://www.nwu.co.za 

​BY REGINALD KANYANE 
BOKONE Bophirima Premier, Supra Mahumapelo will deliver an address at a Gala Dinner function organised by the North West University (NWU) Mafikeng campus on Friday.

Mahumapelo said: “I will focus on the objectives of the Reconciliation, Healing and Renewal programme in relation to social cohesion and internationalization. The importance of commemorating Africa Day.” 

The Gala dinner will take place as follows:

Time   : 18h00

Date   : Friday 19 May 2017

Venue: Mmabatho Palms

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Picture: The deceased, Nombuiselo Mbewu, 15 who was burnt to death

BY REGINALD KANYANE
THE Family of Nombuiselo Mbewu, 15 who was burnt and killed in Jouberton Location in Klerksdorp says justice must prevails. 

The deceased’s grandmother, Nomekile Mbewu said it was devastating to identified the charred remins of her granddaughter. 

“I sent Nombuiselo to one of the neighbours on Friday, but she never returned home. The case of a missing person was opened on Saturday. 

“The burnt body of a person was seen by passerby on Sunday morning. We went to the scene and positively identified her,” Mbewu said.

She said they identified her through her ear rings and the umbrella that she was still holding in her death. 

A 32 year-old man who is believed to be a local artist was arrested. He will appear in Klerksdorp Magistrate’s Court on Tuesday. 

North West Police Commissioner, Lieutenant General Baile Motswenyane condemned the incident. Motswenyane also applauded the police for acting swiftly in arresting the perpetrator.

“Police will work hard to ensure that justice prevails.”

Many women have been killed recently and that sparked a #MenAreTrash campaign.

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It’s no secret media personality Lerato Kganyago has had a few miscarriages, and she bravely opened up about them.

After wishing her followers a happy Mother’s Day yesterday, the topic of motherhood was raised and a Twitter follower asked Lerato about having children. Lerato, a bit peeved, replied by revealing she can’t have children.

“I can’t have children. Hope I won’t be asked this question ever again on this app!” she tweeted.

The heartbreaking revelation news was met with well wishes from fans, who encouragingly told the radio star she could adopt if she wants to.

We can only imagine how hard it was for Lerato to share this. We wish her all the best!

Source: http://www.drum.co.za

By BAKANG MOKOTO

FORMER Ramotshere-Moiloa mayor, Simon Senna past away. ANC provincial secretary, Dakota Legoete said Senna died at Military Hospital after long illness.

“We have learnt with great sadness of the passing of a veteran of our movement, Simon “De Bar” Senna. A 73 year-old was a member of the glorious Luthuli Detachment of Umkhonto weSizwe military wing of the ANC. This loss will be felt not only within the ANC in Bokone Bophirima, but throughout the broader structures of the party and its alliances.

“The mass democratic movement including Zeerust-based community is shocked by Senna’s passing. He served the ANC with loyalty and distinction throughout his adult life. We devastated to lose a person of his caliber who still had a lot to share with the movement. The ANC dips its revolutionary flag in honour of this servant of the people,” Legoete said.

A 73 year-old cadre is survived by his wife, Gaanaope Sally Senna, a daughter and
grandchildren. Senna was born in Gopane Village near Lehurutshe back in 1944.

“He participated in the 1957 uprising when women were marching against the pass laws and that is where he cut his teeth in the liberation struggle. Senna left the country in 1964 after a successful stint of courier work and assisted people to cross the South African border into Botswana to go to exile.

“He received military training in Egypt focusing on survival military skills. Senna proceeded to the Soviet Union in 1965 for advanced military training. He was part of the founding comrades who opened the Wankie/Sipholilo campaign against the then Rhodesian Government,” he said.

Legoete added that Senna also trained new cadres in 1976. He further said Senna went on to serve the ANC in diplomatic capacities in the then East Germany and Zambia.

“In 1993 when the ban on political organisations was lifted, Senna returned to the country and took up the demobilization option. He was then employed at Public Works department as a functionary in the Extended Public Works Programme (EPWP) projects.

“Senna also served as the first African National Congress Veterans League (ANCVL) Provincial Secretary in Bokone Bophirima. He was lated deployed as Ramotshere Moiloa local municipal mayor until he retired after the 2016 Local Government Elections,” Legoete said.

Memorial Service is scheduled as follows:
Date: 17th May 2017
Time: 10h00
Venue   : Gopane Village, Zeerust

Funeral Service is scheduled as follows:
Date    : 20th May 2017
Venue   : Gopane Village, Zeerust

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